Campaign reaction
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“I am so glad that this campaign was put out, and that it's caused so much buzz on the UK, because i'm sure it really does challenge people's perception on the matter of rape. Although we'd hope that most people would agree that it is never the victim's fault, there are people that do blame it on…”
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Author: Jas, Male, East Midlands, England
Date: 30/01/2015
Category: Campaign reaction
Replies: 0
Show your support men!
“Its about time someone put something like this out! I live on the other side of the world in New Zealand and this video has made its way here. I'm here to plead to other men to help end sexual violence. Next time your mate makes a sexist remark about a woman, call him out on it! Next time your…”
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Author: Des, Male, Auckland
Date: 30/01/2015
Category: Campaign reaction
Replies: 0
Support from OZ
“I'm an Australian woman living in Sydney and recently attended a healthy relationships course to educate students in schools about DV and sexual assault and the law. In the course they showed us your advert which led me to look up your website and Facebook page. I love what you're doing in the UK…”
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Author: Lynda, Female, Sydney
Date: 08/01/2014
Category: Campaign reaction
Replies: 1
Stop Victim Blaming
“We need to understand that rape is not about what the woman was/wasn't wearing, how drunk she was/wasn't or how "far" she had previously gone with her rapist; rape is simply an abuse of power. If it was simply about how women dressed, then there would be no rapes in countries like Afghanistan and…”
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Author: Thomasina, Female, Cumbria, UK
Date: 11/04/2013
Category: Campaign reaction
Replies: 1
i think this is great
“I think what you're doing is really important. I really wish we had a campaign like this in America. Frankly the statistics here are just as startling. The problem is that there are so many people who think that everyone knows rape is wrong, leading them to make jokes and actually contribute to…”
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Author: Maggie, Female, USA
Date: 22/02/2013
Category: Campaign reaction
Replies: 0
Fault versus precautions
“Those who rape does not care about this campaign. It's like telling people not to steal or kill. You can ignore the fact that some people do not respect you OR you could be responsible and take precautions. I can say: "It's the thieves fault I was robbed!". "Don't tell people to lock the door,…”
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Author: Espen, Male, Oslo
Date: 10/09/2012
Category: Campaign reaction
Replies: 2
The Root of the problem
“I think this campaign is great but what concerns me is that it doesn't address the causes of these issues. What I mean by that is it doesn't answer the question why are things this way? Who made them like this and why did they? What were their motives? Until we answer these questions we can't hope…”
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Author: Caitlin McGee, Female, US
Date: 01/02/2012
Category: Campaign reaction
Replies: 1
Men
“Yes I'm against rape but not all rape is by men. Your 'tips' for how not to rape are all written as if males are the only ones able to do things. "When she...", "Leave her alone", etc. Both genders are able to take advantage of anyone under the influence or alone. Stop being so closed-minded and…”
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Author: Artie Blotch, Male, Kent
Date: 18/11/2011
Category: Campaign reaction
Replies: 3
Human Rights
“Woman are human beings. We deserve the freedom to be able to go wherever we want, at any time, wearing anything, without fearing being attacked.
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Author: N, Female, Sydney
Date: 12/09/2011
Category: Campaign reaction
Replies: 0
rape is never justified
“How can rape be justified some people have to be some kind of sick arrogant pricks to do such a hurtful thing. Do they think about what it will do to the victims and their familes? These people who have to suffer and are scared to speak up about it. Sometimes the rapist gets away with it. Please…”
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Author: mel, Female, usa
Date: 28/06/2011
Category: Campaign reaction
Replies: 0
A humble suggestion
“First let me say that rape is truly an awful crime to happen to anyone, only slightly less horrific than murder. Rapists and anyone who thinks that anything but zero tolerance for forcing another human being to do anything sexual they do not consent to. I seriously think cutting off the rapist's…”
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Author: Greg, Male, Lancaster, PA
Date: 14/06/2011
Category: Campaign reaction
Replies: 3
The way rape victims are treated
“Its official, Rape is the only crime where the victim becomes the suspect, and for a crime which is just below murder there are a lot of victims who recieve a lot of stress and dissbelief from authorities and the majority of the suspecs get away scott free. Rape is like emotional murder, it kills…”
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Author: Rhona, Female, Scotland
Date: 14/06/2011
Category: Campaign reaction
Replies: 0
Being Prepared
“First of all, let me preface this by saying rape is NEVER okay. Nevertheless, as women, we do have to protect ourselves. There are sick bastards out there, and we have to do everything we can to prevent an attack from occurring. In my case, that involves dressing more conservatively so as not to…”
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Author: Cassidy, Female, USA
Date: 19/05/2011
Category: Campaign reaction
Replies: 3
One correction
“While I fully approve of this campaign, and it's goal, there is something that some people on here don't understand: most rapes are not sexually motivated. They are a way for the attacker to gain power, which is what they truly want. True, there are some cases when the rapist, male or female, just…”
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Author: Katelyn, Female, Maryland
Date: 08/03/2011
Category: Campaign reaction
Replies: 0
Brilliant advert!
“This advert is brilliant. It makes it's point so well and i think it also could be helpful to rape survivors. As a survivor of rape i know that i spent years thinking that i had done something, it was my fault, i must have given some sort of signal, i shouldnt have drank, i shouldnt have gone to…”
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Author: Amanda, Female, Glasgow
Date: 17/01/2011
Category: Campaign reaction
Replies: 0
The way rape victims are treated
“Its official, Rape is the only crime where the victim becomes the suspect, and for a crime which is just below murder there are a lot of victims who recieve a lot of stress and dissbelief from autorities and the majority of the suspecs get away scott free. Rape is like emotional murder, it kills…”
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Author: Rhona, Female, Scotland
Date: 03/11/2010
Category: Campaign reaction
Replies: 2
Brilliant advert!
“This advert is brilliant. It makes it's point so well and i think it also could be helpful to rape survivors. As a survivor of rape i know that i spent years thinking that i had done something, it was my fault, i must have given some sort of signal, i shouldnt have drank, i shouldnt have gone to…”
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Author: Amanda, Female, Glasgow
Date: 27/10/2010
Category: Campaign reaction
Replies: 0
the ratings
“i noticed that the survey not 1 was 100 percent, why would anyone think its ever correct or allowed after someone says no. would these people think again if it was their mum or sister
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Author: kenneth, Male, scotland
Date: 30/08/2010
Category: Campaign reaction
Replies: 2
nobody ever asks to be raped
“i find the advert on the telelvision hard to watch, nobody ever asks to be raped ever. the problem is the way society looks at women being the weaker sex and the attitude of the police and other service if you have been drinking and are raped
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Author: jackie, Female, scotland
Date: 16/08/2010
Category: Campaign reaction
Replies: 0
Great campaign
“I went through an ordeal last year where my drink was spiked and I was assaulted. My most terrifying thought the whole of the next day at the Police Station was that I wouldn't be taken seriously and I would be regarded as a drunk girl just asking to be taken advantage of. The Police Officers who…”
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Author: Laura, Female, East Yorks
Date: 12/08/2010
Category: Campaign reaction
Replies: 0
Male Rape
“Why is there no mention of Male Rape in this campaign. My best mate (Male) was raped in Glasgow on his stag do..... This type of assualt still remains silent!
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Author: anon, Male, Glasgow
Date: 10/08/2010
Category: Campaign reaction
Replies: 5
Scared of the ordeal
“I was raped when I was 17 but never told anyone because I was scared of the police ordeal and didn't want to upset my parents. I was alone in my parents house and a man tricked me into letting him in. He made me do awful things before he raped me and he even stole the clothes I was wearing. Am I…”
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Author: Nikki, Female, Scotland
Date: 09/08/2010
Category: Campaign reaction
Replies: 2
All about women?
“While i admire it being brought to the public attention about rape etc, the advert, and also this full site seems directed at females. Yes, the majority of rape cases have females as the victims, but don't forget men can be at the recieving end of such traumas too...
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Author: Kirsty, Female, Central Scotland
Date: 28/07/2010
Category: Campaign reaction
Replies: 2
Comparing rape to property theft
“I have read several comments on here that compare 'taking sensible precautions' against being raped alongside 'taking sensible precautions' to avoid theft or burglary. Please can we stop this comparison, for several reasons. 1. Women are constantly bombarded with messages about how they can help…”
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Author: Susan, Female, Glasgow
Date: 22/07/2010
Category: Campaign reaction
Replies: 10
The tale of Mr Smith
“The law discriminates against rape victims in a manner which would not be tolerated by victims of any other crime. In the following example, a holdup victim is asked questions similar in form to those usually asked a victim of rape. "Mr. Smith, you were held up at gunpoint on the corner of 16th…”
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Author: Susan, Female, Glasgow
Date: 22/07/2010
Category: Campaign reaction
Replies: 2
What about thu women that have suffered??
“I was not happy when I seen the advert! I agree with the message but the way they went about it was a little unsensitive. I am a victim of rape and I do not beleive that ANYONE deserves or asks to be raped! Everyone has the right to say what they like so why cant the same go for what they wear??…”
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Author: Sarah, Female, Paisley
Date: 21/07/2010
Category: Campaign reaction
Replies: 2
thank you
“It's great to see this campaign and, from many of the comments people have made here on your website, it's a very necessary campaign. So many people have come on here to decry the campaign while at the same time displaying many of the attitudes it tries to challenge. It's strange that they don't…”
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Author: kel, Female, hamilton
Date: 09/07/2010
Category: Campaign reaction
Replies: 0
It's not about skirts stupid ! !
“It's not about skirts stupid !! I have two sons and two daughters who are young and single and as a mother would defend each of their rights to go out dressed as they please which they do !! I really do think that in this day and age there can be few young people who hold such unenlightened views…”
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Author: mum, Female, glasgow
Date: 08/07/2010
Category: Campaign reaction
Replies: 2
...what of the false allegations?
“While I agree that there is never any excuse for rape and I abhor those who think that those who dress provocatively "ask for it" - I think it has to be considered that there are allegations made wrongly as a result of "buyers remorse". The real victims in these circumstances are the accused -…”
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Author: David, Male, Fife
Date: 07/07/2010
Category: Campaign reaction
Replies: 6
ASK Her
“To all the men who complain that women lead them on: How do you avoid raping someone or pressuring them into sex? You ASK THEM whether they want to have sex with you (or kiss you, or whatever it is you'd like to do). If they say no or they seem hesitant you drop the matter - even if you think…”
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Author: Tony, Male, Boston, MA
Date: 06/07/2010
Category: Campaign reaction
Replies: 5
Gender options
“Transgender is not a third gender, it is a descriptive term. Transgender people can be women (trans women) or men (trans men) or non-binary identified folk. Trans people, if binary identified, are not some kind of third gender, they're men and women just like cisgender people. What a shame that…”
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Author: Rosie, Female, England
Date: 03/07/2010
Category: Campaign reaction
Replies: 3
Crime Prevention
“I wholeheartedly agree that no woman ever asks to be raped. But it's about taking precautions and being safe. No one asks to be mugged or robbed either, but there are ways to prevent this by not being in certain situations or by not acting like a victim (walking with head down, unaware of…”
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Author: Sander, Male, Kansas, USA
Date: 03/07/2010
Category: Campaign reaction
Replies: 9
There's only one risk factor for rape
“This is an excellent campaign and I wish you all the best with it. I've worn short skirts and low cut tops many times, and not been raped. I've been drunk many times, and not been raped. I've flirted with and kissed men in bars on several occasions, and not been raped. I've taken men home with me…”
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Author: Claire, Female, Halifax
Date: 02/07/2010
Category: Campaign reaction
Replies: 1
Yes Means Yes
“It is long past time we moved on from the "no means no" concept of years past and embrace the enthusiasm of Yes means Yes. Sex and intimacy between two people, even in the context of a one-night stand, should be a joyful experience for BOTH. Not something you "get" the other to do to fulfill your…”
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Author: Social Worker, Female, California, U.S.
Date: 01/07/2010
Category: Campaign reaction
Replies: 0
ASKING TO BE RAPED!!!
“I truly cant believe some of the comments posted by males and worst of all females,on how their belief is that women ASKED to be raped! Explain to me how a women asks to be raped because of attire or the amount of alcohol she may have consummed? If a women walks down the street naked is that an…”
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Author: Karen, Female, Larkhall
Date: 29/06/2010
Category: Campaign reaction
Replies: 3
No is no
“It took me 30 years to come to terms with being raped. And I continue to reflect on how that event changed me and how I related to men and to social situations for decades. It's never what you wear, how you flirt, how much you had to drink or if you're being accommodating and nice: no is no. NO IS…”
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Author: Cate, Female, California
Date: 29/06/2010
Category: Campaign reaction
Replies: 0
Emphasis
“The campaign is good but the emphasis is so bad. As I guy who has been sexually assaulted by a girl it would be good to have that perspective as well. It's not about tits and ass, that's the whole point - it's about someone having sex with you when you haven't given them your consent. And it would…”
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Author: For me to know, Male, and you not to find out
Date: 29/06/2010
Category: Campaign reaction
Replies: 2
Innocent until proved guilty
“It should always be the case that 'no' means 'no'. However, there have been women who have maliciously accused men of rape and the man's name has been dragged through the press, only to be found innocent. The rape victim and the alleged rapist should remain annonymous during any court case.
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Author: Sue, Female, glasgow
Date: 29/06/2010
Category: Campaign reaction
Replies: 2
People with too much time on their hands
“I am sorry, perhaps I am not the rape kind of guy, but I think this campaign is a bad joke. I can not quite imagine those situations this web page is talking about. The questions posed here seem rhetorical to me. There are laws (yes even in the UK) under which people (men basically) can be held…”
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Author: Bartender, Male, Anywhere
Date: 29/06/2010
Category: Campaign reaction
Replies: 5
This is the way you do it baby..
“This is the way you do it baby.. the words of a man I dated and trusted. When we got 'intimate' he started to hurt me and I asked him to stop saying and knowing I wasnt ready - before he was inside me - but he kept going and I couldnt stop him. It hurt a lot and I bled. Did I 'ask for it'? No, I…”
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Author: rathernotsay, Female, scotland
Date: 29/06/2010
Category: Campaign reaction
Replies: 2
Underage
“What is the % of girls under 18 drinking in the night clubs? I've seen firends found guilty of rape all because the little spoilt brat was late home from drinking and for a defence scream rape. Pairents should be at fault for letting their children drink. If a girl drinks under the age of 18, and…”
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Author: Gary, Male, UK
Date: 29/06/2010
Category: Campaign reaction
Replies: 2
why are conviction rates so low?
“There appears to be an assumption that low rape conviction rates are because somehow "victims" are attacked in the criminal justice system. The simple fact remains that it is a JURY that decides that an accused is guilty or not guilty. Juries are made up of women and men, and they use their own…”
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Author: blackaffronted, Male, Edinburgh
Date: 29/06/2010
Category: Campaign reaction
Replies: 5