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it's nothing to do with clothes

Far too often the survivor of rape knows the rapist, doesn't matter what they are wearing, far too often the survivor of rape is ignored, ignored because to everyone else the rapist is 'a nice guy', 'a pillar of the community' or 'a loving father and husband'. Why do these people manage to commit such crimes right under everyone's noses? Because that's what rapists do, they know exactly what's happening even in a situation of meeting someone in a club, drink cannot be used as a factor as it's a common fault in people suffering too much alcohol, they cannot perform sexually so any guy who says 'it went too far because i was drunk or i didn't mean it' is hardly telling the truth when the average guy cannot get it up when drunk. Rape is what it is, nothing to do with sex, everything to do with power!!!

Author: May, Female, aberdeen
Date: 10/07/2010

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Agreed, except for one thing: saying it has "nothing to do with sex" is a little misleading. Yes, rape is about power--but in a rape culture, which is what we have, normative male attitudes toward sex are bound up with normative male attitudes toward power. Saying it's *only* about power ignores how rape culture continues to programme men to view sex as an entitlement, and women as instruments toward attaining that entitlement.

Author: Nick, Male, Singapore
Date: 11/07/2010

yes it's totally on my case! it's nothing to do with the clothes, also nothing to do with how i got attacked, insulted, assaulted, the offender got acquitted anyway when it happens in UK! I wore a coat, a black band's t-shirt, long jeans, sneakers! and all r bloke's style n loose!

Author: K, Female, london
Date: 11/07/2010

It is true and sad, far too many times the victim gets ignored because "he is such a nice guy and he couldn't have done it". No one EVER asks for being raped or molested! NO ONE

Author: J, Female, Mexico
Date: 15/07/2010

Rape is about control seein the fear in that persons eyes and about sex its got nothing to do with what u got on people that do such a horrible thing should be shot x

Author: Pamela, Female, glasgow
Date: 27/07/2010

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“Rape seems to be the only crime where it's seen as ok to put the victim on trial.”

Natasha, Female from Glasgow

“Short skirts don't cause rape. Rapists cause rape”

Joss, Female from Connecticut

“About time something like this was shown on TV. Hopefully it will make everyone realise there cannot be any excuse for rape - EVER.”

Helzo, Female from Renfrewshire