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Blaming the right people

“We need to start blaming the people who are responsible for raping instead of blaming the people who are wearing this or that. Because, whether a woman is sporting some cleavage or a turtleneck, she has the right to walk the streets without fear of being raped. This is basic human rights, respect…”
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Author: Sara, Female, Lisbon, Portugal
Date: 11/11/2013
Category: Dress
Replies: 0

It's sad that society is so quick to judge

“My best friend was wearing pajamas when she was raped. Pants completely covering her legs and a button up long sleeve shirt, it was winter. She was at a sleepover when a man broke into her friends house to rob them and then discovered that two people were home, he ended up raping my best friend and…”
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Author: Meghan, Female, United States
Date: 24/06/2013
Category: Dress
Replies: 0

The way we dress can lead other people to mispercieve you as something else.

“Sometimes we dress in certain ways, depending on what place or location we are at. If were at school, wearing jeans and t-shirts are appropriate and its an academic learning enviroment. If we are at a night club or bar, dressing up is not a problem. But living in your parents house, dress…”
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Author: Deanna Yip, Female, Washington, usa
Date: 10/09/2012
Category: Dress
Replies: 1

Hang on a minute...

“If I have unprotected sex with a lot of strangers, I am likely to catch an STD. If I walk around a bad neighbourhood at night, offending the local hoodies, I am likely to be stabbed. If I don't follow basic hygeine when preparing food, I am liable to get food poisoning. Yes, it is possible to…”
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Author: Mel, Female, Cardiff
Date: 03/07/2012
Category: Dress
Replies: 10

A Letter

“Dear Rape Sympathizers, Did you ever think that maybe we women are not dressing in any particular way for you, but for ourselves? When I go out, I pick my outfit based on what makes me feel confident and fun, which is intended to highlight my mood and personality. If you find me attractive, then…”
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Author: Sara, Female, Indiana, USA
Date: 28/07/2011
Category: Dress
Replies: 1

Slutty Dress

“Recently there was a presentation done by a police officer to a group of young woman at York University (that's York in Toronto, not York in UK). He stated that “women should avoid dressing like sluts in order not to be victimized”. It has completely shocked our community that a representative…”
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Author: Sarah, Female, Toronto
Date: 19/05/2011
Category: Dress
Replies: 1

Not justification.

“It doesn't matter if a woman wears a short skirt, a skimpy dress, or revealing clothes. It doesn't matter if we've drank too much and can barely walk straight. Why? Simple. We have a right to wear what we want, to dance, to drink, and go out with friends, just as we have a right to choose who we…”
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Author: Whitney, Female, Illinois
Date: 25/01/2011
Category: Dress
Replies: 0

woman need to take responsibility

“if two thirds of people think that the woman is to blame because she wears something slutty, dosent that make it true? Also we dont live in a perfect world - which im sure everybody is aware of. If i went out and didnt lock my front door and came back and had been robbed then it would partly be…”
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Author: Martin Hendry, Male, Southside Glasgow
Date: 30/11/2010
Category: Dress
Replies: 7

Asking for it isn't just a short skirt...

“when i was 12, my step-father raped me for the first time. every single one of our neighbors "knew" about it - well, they all persist [to this day! 21 years later] in believing I "seduced him". why? at 12, i LOOKED 20 or so. i had large breasts and hips, and a small waist. i was getting…”
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Author: denelian, Female, Ohio, USA
Date: 03/11/2010
Category: Dress
Replies: 0

Just looking...

“Several posters have commented that it's okay for men to 'look' at women when they are addressed in a particular way. However, does this still not sexually objectify women? Surely all women can wear exactly want they want at all times without any man looking, passing comments or making any…”
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Author: Colin, Male, England
Date: 02/08/2010
Category: Dress
Replies: 1

Rape Case Trials

“If they way you dress is nothing to do with being raped (which I agree with) why is it still such a fundamental issue in rape case trials? ”
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Author: Margaret, Female, Glasgow
Date: 29/07/2010
Category: Dress
Replies: 0

A bit of skin

“I like the message in the advert. Why is it deemed unacceptable for women to dress how they want and enjoy themselves without expecting to be attacked, but it is acceptable to men to act like primitive animals and not be able to hold themselves back if there is a bit of skin on show. Is it…”
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Author: M, Female, Glasgow
Date: 13/07/2010
Category: Dress
Replies: 0

Not ever

“its not the way you dress that casue's rape , rapists cause RAPE noone EVER asks to be raped honestly not EVER ! ”
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Author: Stephanie, Female, Glasgow
Date: 13/07/2010
Category: Dress
Replies: 0

it's nothing to do with clothes

“Far too often the survivor of rape knows the rapist, doesn't matter what they are wearing, far too often the survivor of rape is ignored, ignored because to everyone else the rapist is 'a nice guy', 'a pillar of the community' or 'a loving father and husband'. Why do these people manage to commit…”
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Author: May, Female, aberdeen
Date: 10/07/2010
Category: Dress
Replies: 4

Dangerous campaign

“Under no circumstances is a woman to blame for her own rape. But if a woman dresses provocatively, the chances of this happening are likely to increase. This advert is likely to give some women the impression that they can do as they please (e.g. wear short skirts and generally not look after…”
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Author: Kenneth, Male, Edinburgh, Scotland
Date: 10/07/2010
Category: Dress
Replies: 9

At least the campaign has got people discussing

“My initial reaction to the ad was one of disappointment that it focused on a young, good-looking woman, her choice of clothing and her risk from a stranger, but at least it has provoked some discussion. I'm hoping that there will be future ads which dispel stereotypical views and focus on the real…”
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Author: Caz, Female, Scotland
Date: 09/07/2010
Category: Dress
Replies: 1

This ad makes me angry

“This ad makes me angry and I'm not an aplogist for rape When you start to unpack the narrative of this ad it makes some pretty questionable assumptions about how men react. Aren't there already enough myths and stereotypes around the issue of rape ?? I have two sons and two daughters who are all…”
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Author: Glasgow mum, Female, Glasgow
Date: 07/07/2010
Category: Dress
Replies: 8

Bad Advert.

“It's not deniable that Rape is an appalling disgusting crime. But this campaign is what I believe the wrong way to deliver the message. Before you breathe down my throat, I have read many of the discussions, and as soon as someone says common sense many of you seem to get really angry without…”
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Author: NonDisclosed, Male, Glasgow
Date: 07/07/2010
Category: Dress
Replies: 4

I was raped last yeae

“I got raped last year n i had 2 jackets on n jeans cuz it was cold ppl that do this cant use how u dress as an excuse they are sick ”
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Author: A, Female, Perthshire
Date: 06/07/2010
Category: Dress
Replies: 1

dress has nothing 2 do it

“i was raped at 15 and had jeans and t-shrit on so wot u wear has nothing 2 do it some men jst think they have the rite 2 have sex wi any women. ”
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Author: sarahjane, Female, west lothion
Date: 06/07/2010
Category: Dress
Replies: 1

Powerful Advert

“About time something like this was shown on TV. Hopefully it will make everyone realise there cannot be any excuse for rape - EVER. ”
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Author: Helzo, Female, Renfrewshire
Date: 05/07/2010
Category: Dress
Replies: 0

Powerful Advert

“About time something like this was shown on TV. Hopefully it will make everyone realise there cannot be any excuse for rape - EVER. ”
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Author: Helzo, Female, Renfrewshire
Date: 05/07/2010
Category: Dress
Replies: 0

The "They Just Can't Control Themselves" excuse is a disservice to everyone

“One argument I've heard against the idea that a woman is not at fault for being raped even if she is dressed provocatively is that men "just can't control themselves" when they see a woman in a short skirt or a low-cut top. If you think about it, this is insulting to women, obviously, as it is a…”
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Author: Joss, Female, Connecticut
Date: 05/07/2010
Category: Dress
Replies: 0

Spare me your excuses

“This is in response to one of the comments I read on this blog. Women are told that we need to understand that when men are aroused, they don't think logically. And then they say that it's how women dress and act that arouses them. So of course, it's back to being women's fault if men are aroused…”
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Author: Christina, Female, Colorado
Date: 03/07/2010
Category: Dress
Replies: 0

Men Can't Control Themselves

“I want to make a clear message to any biped calling himself a man, who has the egotism and hubris to state that if a woman dresses in an attractive manner a man can no longer control himself and therefore may respond in any manner and should not be held responsible. This is quite simply…”
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Author: David, Male, US
Date: 03/07/2010
Category: Dress
Replies: 1

Why a woman's actions has nothing to do with being raped

“First of all I must say how refreshing it is to see a campaign that is both raising awareness and challenging ignorance. It really is a breath of fresh air. Secondly, I wanted to share my experience. I was spiked and raped in1995. I was wearing a short skirt but this had nothing to do with my…”
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Author: Hope, Female, Cumbria
Date: 02/07/2010
Category: Dress
Replies: 0

Socially conditioned to blame women

“A woman was raped very close to my flat very recently; it saddened me greatly that I wasn't there or able to help or that no one apparently heard her screams for help. Even though, when chatting to people about it, you're given a sense sympathy for the woman and worry about the rapist not being…”
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Author: Lisa, Female, Edinburgh
Date: 01/07/2010
Category: Dress
Replies: 4

And again it feels like so many miss the point

“First I want to thank this campaign and all involved. I wish that the United States had a similar campaign going. Secondly, the whole point of this campaign as I understand it is to educate or make the point that no matter what is worn or how one acts...rape is never asked for, and it should…”
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Author: Megan, Female, U.S.A.
Date: 01/07/2010
Category: Dress
Replies: 0

justice?

“I was raped. It happened in my home. My baby was asleep upstairs. It was perpetrated by someone I knew and had formerly been in a relationship with. Does this make it my fault? I had no reason not to let him into my home, no reason to suspect that this would happen Does this make it my fault? He…”
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Author: frogs, Female, cardiff
Date: 29/06/2010
Category: Dress
Replies: 0

Are you really trying to say that grown men are behaving like toddlers?

“To say its a woman's fault if she's raped because she was wearing revealing clothing is tantamount to saying that grown men are behaving like little children in the sweetie/toy shop who aren't mature enough to control their actions or understand that they can't always, absolutely have everything…”
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Author: Kate, Female, Edinburgh
Date: 29/06/2010
Category: Dress
Replies: 0

Are you really trying to say that grown men are behaving like toddlers?

“To say its a woman's fault if she's raped because she was wearing revealing clothing is tantamount to saying that grown men are behaving like little children in the sweetie/toy shop who aren't mature enough to control their actions or understand that they can't always, absolutely have everything…”
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Author: Kate, Female, Edinburgh
Date: 29/06/2010
Category: Dress
Replies: 3

Asking for it or up for it?

“The issue regarding blaming women who get raped for dressing indecently is not just one fold as many of you're claiming, its two-fold. The first issue deals with the act of rape. People who rape women are the worst cowards on earth. They're to be punished/executed according to the law whilst…”
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Author: Pauline Baxter, Female, Glasgow
Date: 29/06/2010
Category: Dress
Replies: 1

Dressing up

“This is a true story, i used to live in scotland, while shopping for my new son to be (he's now 8), it was about 3 weeks from the start of the new school year. Now i remember when i was at school, girls skirts had to be ankle length, what was on sale, and being brought by pairents were skirts no…”
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Author: Gary, Male, UK
Date: 29/06/2010
Category: Dress
Replies: 2

Just a Thought

“If I carried £400 on a night out, flashed it about in front of others, got extremely drunk, and then walked home alone down a dark alley, I'd be asking to get mugged of my handbag!! Of course it doesn't make it right, but it's true! Suggesting that wearing provocative clothes, getting extremely…”
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Author: Elaine, Female, Glasgow
Date: 29/06/2010
Category: Dress
Replies: 2

She's asking for it! As if!

“It is absolutely ridiculous to blame someone for being raped due to what they were wearing at the time. People should be allowed to wear what they want and when they want without fear of being assaulted. It's about time we started to challenge why we blame the victim rather than the…”
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Author: Faye Wilson, Female, Buckie, Scotland
Date: 29/06/2010
Category: Dress
Replies: 0

Have your say

“Rape seems to be the only crime where it's seen as ok to put the victim on trial.”

Natasha, Female from Glasgow

“Short skirts don't cause rape. Rapists cause rape”

Joss, Female from Connecticut

“About time something like this was shown on TV. Hopefully it will make everyone realise there cannot be any excuse for rape - EVER.”

Helzo, Female from Renfrewshire